Enid Blyton is not considered politically correct by many today. If I try reading one of those books today, I will have to admit that getting past the first few pages would be really difficult. But I will be eternally grateful to her for opening out the big, wide, happy, relaxing, enlightening world of reading to me. Robert Fulghum said “All I Wanted to Know I learned in Kindergarten” and I would have to say, “Most of what I needed to know, I learnt from Enid Blyton”.
There is one series that made a significant impact at a very young age, It is about the ‘naughtiest girl’ Elizabeth Allen who is sent to a boarding school against her wishes. She makes a pact with herself to hate the school and make it so difficult for others as well that she will be thrown out before the year is over. The story goes predictably through the initial difficult days, how it slowly changes and how she startes developing friendships and is finally made the class monitor. She doesn’t want to leave, but faces a dilemma now. She has promised herself to get out of the school and now to say otherwise would portray her as a weakling. I don’t remember who tells her this, but the conversation is something that I have remembered since then. It goes something like this,
“True courage is accepting that you were wrong and being willing to make changes. Refusing to do so even after knowing you are not right is cowardice”
Isn’t it so true in so many areas of our life? We make decisions which seems right to us at that moment, things change, sometimes not for the better, and you still cling on. Many of us stay on in unhappy jobs, refusing to admit that this is not where you should be, or that you have had enough and it is time to move on. You put up with people and situations long after they have pulled you deep down, fearing that upsetting the apple cart is going to turn your life upside down. Sometimes we try so hard and long to turn things around, refusing to acknowledge that nothing that you do is going to change the way things are and not everything is because of you or in your control.
There comes a point when you need to realize that you have done all you could and it is better to leave things as they are.
Let it be….and maybe let go…